If you scroll down and see two Scream characters, do not adjust your screen. We seem to pcik up extra kids all the time. My huaband R is the creepy dude without eyeballs. My brother, a former Marine and current dork, is Finn from Adventure Time! Hope you had a great Halloween!
31 Oct 2012 Leave a Comment
31 Oct 2012 Leave a Comment
For the fourth time in my marriage, my husband was home to celebrate my birthday. Turning 38 last Monday was by no means sad or depressing for me. It felt rather triumphant, to be alive for this long, to be happy and content with everyone in my life and content with everything I have.
After R got the kids ready and dropped them off at school, we went out to breakfast at a little European restaurant in Sacramento. The last time I went my friends and I were doing research for Oktoberfest and sampled different German pastries. R and I had omlettes and indulged in croissants and macarons from the bakery. It felt indulgent to not only eat them but a bit evil since we ate them without the kids.
On Saturday we had family come over to celebrate the October birthdays of myself, my brother, and my uncle.
My daughter A felt the absence of her cousins but noticed that her other grandparents (R’s parents) were not there. It’s only temporary though, we tell her, because soon when Daddy’s retired we’ll be able to drive out east to see the other half of our family at least once a year.
Speaking of R’s family, we got a scrumptious care package from his parents…
I’ll have more photos soon. Have a wonderful and safe Halloween!
31 Oct 2012 Leave a Comment
Naughty By Nature
I got this
My friends and I occasionally go out dancing. To avoid being “the old ladies at the club”, we look for places that play older music. After this concert, my friend C and I have decided to attend more of these old school concerts. We had such a great time because everyone was there for the same reasons: enjoy the music, dance with our friends, and have a drink or two (with a designated driver).
What about this?
09 Oct 2012 Leave a Comment
I took a day off to go to the pumpkin patch with L’s kindergarten class. It was bittersweet as the first time I went to this pumpkin patch was with A two years ago and today will be the last with one of the kid’s classes. (M did attended kindergarten in Virginia.)
The weather was still warm but thankfully not in triple digits like the week before.
13 Sep 2012 Leave a Comment
Even though the weather is still in triple digits, I am counting down to days to fall. All of our fall and Halloween stuff is out of the garage and waiting patiently in our living room.
Don’t get me wrong. I missed these days
Plants begin to wither, trees start to lose their leaves but fall represents more than the change in weather. When I taught, the season brought a new classroom of students and their families to get to know, starting fresh with rested minds. It means getting back to work after a few weeks of a restless summer. Fall brings a string of holidays that have been commercialized to no end but each year brings hope that more and more people are rejecting the material side of holidays.
Each year, I get excited about hitting the Christmas sales. As I get older I know it is not about spending money, not about trampling others for good deals on electronics we don’t need, and certainly not about who is going to get me what (though I would really like a new coffee mug as they tend to break over time; must be overuse from coffee and/or ice cream).
I realized years ago that if for any reason I cannot walk away from my shopping cart, then I am taking this way too seriously. And so has shaped my excursions. I enjoy people watching with friends willing to brave the crowd and talking to others in line. Oh, I’ve run into my share of rude people and ignore them as I don’t want to waste a moment of my life on people giving off such negative energy. Many are there with families and have plenty of stories to tell of past shopping trips and Thanksgiving dinners.
In many conversations with friends and family, I bring up the possibility of NOT exchanging gifts, of throwing a slumber party full of pizza and sugar that kids should enjoy once in a while. I think this idea would work with our friends and some family members. In fact, I am planning two cookie decorating and craft nights for our friends and ending each evening with bringing the fruits of our labor and the gift of song to a nearby convalescent home. I can think of no better way to celebrate the season than by sharing cookies and cards with others.
Because of the lingering summer, our welcome to fall will be delayed by a few weeks. This will give us time to remember what our traditions are and ponder what new ones we can begin. I look forward to sharing these with you and reading about yours as well.
21 Jan 2012 Leave a Comment
I made several dozen of these guys for our school Fall Festival last year. They were such a hit that they were ALL GONE even before the event ended. No biggie because they were easy to make.
Pinecones, rocks, and acorns courtesy of the trees just outside our neighborhood Starbucks.
Tissue, glue gun, construction paper, scissors, googly eyes. Easy peasy.
01 Nov 2011 1 Comment
I woke up feeling a little dreadful of our morning routine. Exhausted but for good reason. I had too much sugar last night. Went to bed a little later than usual. If I felt a bit cranky, I did not want to see what kind of mood the kids would be in.
“Mommy! My eyes hurt!” Yes, your eyes hurt because we went to very late last night. Anything after 7 pm is late for the littlest ones.
“I don’t want to wear purple pants!” Okay, why don’t we choose another pair then and I’m sorry I haven’t had a chance to fold your collection of stretchy comfy pants from Target.
“You forgot to correct my math homework!” Ouch. That one hurt. Fourth grade math is no longer mommy mental math. At least, not without coffee.
I had an A-HA moment in between the youngest complaining about her vision and the middle just being cranky, amplified.
Why shouldn’t I set up my kids for a successful, positive day?
True, we could go about our routine, business as usual, because as any of my cousins would tell you, I do not spoil my children (much). I don’t follow my kids around the house with food trying to feed them. I make them eat at the table at mealtime. They clean up after themselves and ask if they can be excused from the table in public. I don’t freak out when they’re running too fast or climbing too high though I do internally freak out if they get hurt. Their public behavior is exemplary and puts their home behavior to shame. Can’t complain though. I’d rather have that than the other way around.
To the middle child, who is my sassy one and the one who was born with the word DIVA embedded in her mind, I did not say the usual, “Alright, let’s get dressed. I’m coming back in five minutes to check up on you.”
Instead I said, “Do you want me to stay with you until you’re ready?”
I had chocolate chip pancakes to make, lunches to pack, and a dishwasher than needed to be emptied. All that didn’t matter in the wake of getting A off on the right foot.
And I think she did. I did have to ask her to get her socks and shoes on twice. She was a bit contrary when I gave her two choices for breakfast and lunch in both cases she always chose option C. She didn’t even put her coat on when I asked her to for this chilly morning. She decided on her striped jacket even though it was the same jacket for which she expressed pure disdain yesterday.
I won’t be able to be this patient every morning but I should remember that I am the first person our children with whom our children will interact. If I can set the tone of their day, why not be mindful of it and quit thinking “I have to get them ready for school” and “I have to get their lunches ready” and “ME ME ME ME ME ME?” Why not think “WE” and “Let us get ready” and be on their team, their side?
I’ll let you know the score tomorrow morning.
20 Oct 2011 11 Comments
So over on Wife of a Sailor, Wife posts questions for other bloggers to answer on their own military spouse blogs. (Still with me so far?) And since I just tucked the kids in their beds, I thought this might be fun to fill out because I’m waiting a few more minutes until they’re actually asleep to sneak some Ben & Jerry’s.
1. I WANT…
…to do a 5K next month. I walked two miles on Tuesday and today I… wait for it… jogged 4.6K today without stopping! Don’t be too impressed as I jog very slowly. So slow, in fact, that whenever I bring the big dog with me, he looks at me as if he’s saying, “Are you effing kidding me???”
2. I HAVE…
… to apologize to the kids tomorrow morning. Again. It has not been the best of times in this hizzouse this week. The kids have been taking turns getting sick and Lord knows I can’t sleep when they’re sick. I haven’t been able to work or work out in the past two weeks! Hopefully, running twice this week and working tomorrow will kick everything back into balance. Either that or I will have to find a sitter to watch my kids so I can put myself in time out for a while.
3. I WISH…
…it was Thanksgiving already then that would mean you-know-who would be home.
4. I HOPE…
…our household avoids illnesses this cold/flu season! I’ve had quite enough of hospitals, doctors, antibiotics, stitches, and sleepless nights to last me several seasons.
5. I WONDER…
…if I would be able to cut it in a doctoral program. It’s exciting to think about but intimidating as well. I also wonder if the kids are asleep. Coffee Heath Crunch ice cream, here I come!